How Can I Stop My Addiction?

So we read in the “I’m a good person” section that not one good thing can come from us. If that’s true, then how in the world are you supposed to stop your addiction to watching porn? The ONLY tried and true way to receive the freedom, peace of mind, healing, and joy you desire so much is below.

1. Shame and Guilt vs Conviction

Guilt and conviction both help you recognize your sin, but there is a difference. Guilt accuses you and makes you believe that your sin is your identity. Guilt says "you're useless", "you'll never be able to stop watching porn", "anything you try won't work", and all this can eventually lead to depression. Know that the shame and guilt you are experiencing from your addiction is not from God. Shame and guilt come from the devil, whose job is to steal, kill, and destroy your life (John 10:10). Conviction also shows you your sin, but offers hope. Conviction says "turn to God", "repent", "ask God to heal you"; "tell someone". God brings conviction through the power of the Holy Spirit, not guilt or condemnation (1 Thessalonians 1:4-5).

2. Believe

Believe in the ONE who can save you from your addiction to porn. Jesus is the ONLY addiction that will bring you the peace of mind and freedom you crave and seek! Romans 8 tells us that there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus. Through Jesus we are set free from sin and death. I am a walking testimony that this is absolutely true! We see repeatedly through God’s Word that He shows no favoritism, and wants everyone to be saved (1 Timothy 2:3-4). That includes YOU!!

3. Have Faith

Breakthrough and transformation of our hearts and mind require faith in Jesus. Hebrews 11:6 tells us that without faith it is impossible to please God, because anyone who comes to Him must believe that He exists and that He rewards those who earnestly seek Him.

4. Repent by Making War

Repentance is the act of turning 180 degrees (or making a u-turn) from your sins. Repentance is acknowledging that you are a sinner, who is in perpetual need of God’s grace because you no longer want to hurt God. (Genesis 6:6) God's intention is not to bring harm to us; he wants us to repent and live! (Ezekiel 18:30-32) Keep in mind that Godly sorrow (conviction) brings repentance that leads to salvation and leaves no regret, but worldly sorrow (shame and guilt) brings death (2 Corinthians 7:10). Repentance is not saying "I'm sorry", then turning around and doing the same thing. In order to stop watching porn, you need to beg God to help you hate porn. God can help you hate the sin. If you continue to enjoy watching porn, then it will be extremely difficult for you to walk in repentance and stop watching porn. You literally have to make war with your strong desires to keep watching porn, and you can only win that battle with the grace and mercy of God through Jesus. Flee from any temptation and run to the things that please Jesus. Stop watching any type of movie or show that will trigger your desire to watch porn, and find uplifting/wholesome shows and movies. Stop reading books that cause your mind to wander towards lust and sex, and find books that concern God and His people. Now, you can watch God transform your mind.

5. Receive the Free Gift of Grace and Forgiveness

God didn’t just send His only son to die for me, He sent Jesus to die for you too. Jesus’ blood was poured out for the forgiveness of everyone's sins (Matthew 26:28). Acts 13:38 tells us that through Jesus the forgiveness of sins is made known to you. Without the shedding of blood, there is no forgiveness (Hebrews 9:22), but thank God that Jesus did shed His blood to set us free. Jesus shed His blood to set you free from sin, including the sin of watching porn.

6. Confess

The shame and guilt you feel is meant to keep you isolated and in hiding. You need to seek accountability. I learned that the minute I shared my secret addiction to porn, I no longer gave the devil a foothold to use it against me. Find a trusted person, who you can confess your struggles to. If you don’t have such a person, connect with us on our contact us page, and we can walk with you. Another option is to join our private Facebook group for ladies. Also check the resources page for ways to keep yourself accountable. James 5:16 tells us to confess our sins to each other and pray for each other so that you can be healed. You are here because you’re looking for healing, and now you see that you are not alone in this fight! The promise is in 1 John 1:9: “If we confess our sins, [God] is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.”

7. Be Baptized to Receive New Life

Repent and be baptized in the name of Jesus Christ for the forgiveness of your sins, and you will receive the gift of the Holy Spirit (Acts 2:38). By accepting God’s son, Jesus, God uses the Holy Spirit to transform and change our lives like we never thought possible. Through baptism by immersion, we are buried with Christ, but just as Christ rose from the dead, we too are raised to live a new life (Romans 6:4). Immersion into water is not for the literal cleansing of dirt from your body. It is a symbol that cleanses our minds and conscience towards God, which can only be received through faith. In other words, it is a plea to God for a clear conscience, and saves us through the resurrection of Christ (1 Peter 3:21).

8. Become Part of a Family

God lets us know in 1 John 3:6 that no one who lives in Jesus keeps on sinning. No one who continues to sin knows Jesus. When we come to know, love, and develop a relationship with Jesus, we can no longer live in sin.

Also, you cannot do this new walk of freedom alone. God is a God of fellowship. In Ecclesiastes 4:9-12, He tells us that 2 are better than 1, and a cord of 3 strands is not easily broken. We are here to help and walk with you, so that you are not alone in isolation. However, we can’t know you if you do not confess and make yourself known. Also, be careful with continuing to hang out with and associating yourself with people who do not support your new walk to freedom. 1 Corinthians 15:33 tells us that bad company corrupts good character, not the other way around – meaning, good character does not turn bad company into ethical people. Still love them with the same grace and mercy God has shown you, but don’t be surprised when you start losing your friends, or when family members no longer want to associate with you. (Jesus warns us of this in Matthew 10:32-39.)

Lastly, PRAY to God to help you find a Bible believing church. There are many churches in America (maybe too many), but Bible believing churches are VERY hard to find. Pray for God to lead you towards one, so that you can hear the Word that brings faith (Romans 10:17). And don’t just go to church, rather, become part of the body of believers and be part of a discipleship process that takes several years (like Jesus's ministry). If you have no one you can walk with, you are welcome to join our Facebook community, and connect with ladies who are willing to listen to you and pray for you. Remember that the way to salvation is narrow, so true believers are hard to find, but if you earnestly seek God and surrender, He will guide you to your family.

Final Advice

Hide the Word of God in your heart to keep you from falling back into watching porn. In Psalm 119:9-11, God tells us that a young person keeps their ways pure by living according to His word. You cannot live according to God’s Word if you do not know what His word says. Lastly, I want you to remember that although God is a merciful God, He is also a God of Justice. He warns us in Hebrews 10:26-27 that if we deliberately keep on sinning after we have received the knowledge of truth, no sacrifice will be left for our sin. The choice is yours – freedom from addiction to porn can be yours today!

Please note: this is not a step by step or how to list on how to save yourself from addiction. You cannot save yourself, and you cannot bring about peace of mind or change your own heart. This can only be done by surrendering to the ONLY One who can change you permanently.